Yan, that is a teaching that is unfortunate, but at least it does lead people to not view life through rose- coloured glasses. I've never met a person who feels life is fair. It's sad.
I thought about fairness when I was 14. It bugged me and I shared this with my Mandarin teacher.
She said this, " (There's) No fairness in life. Look at where our heart is placed when we are born. It's lean to one side. In Chinese, biased = 偏心, literally means heart-leaning-to-one-side."
That sealed the fate for me regarding fairness. I grew up then accepting that life is not going to be fair, BUT it doesn't stop me from doing what is "morally" and "ethically" right, to the best I can!.
Fairness is a notion I grapple with every day. I try to be fair to the students that are on time for class yet know the ones that are late often rely on public transit or have children to deal with before getting themselves to school. I am well aware that many people struggle to keep their head above water while I moan about the price of gas and food and can well afford it in comparison. I'm amazed at how many folks have been subject to one tragedy after another yet still have a reason to live. That hardly seems fair.
Unfortunately, it's life. We get what we're given and our mindset shapes how we deal with the challenges thrown at us - and how we come out the other side.
I enjoyed your newsletter Karen, and it certainly got me thinking!
If we take on the blame game, we achieve nothing - other than feeling bitter and twisted which perpetuates the circle.
Yan, that is a teaching that is unfortunate, but at least it does lead people to not view life through rose- coloured glasses. I've never met a person who feels life is fair. It's sad.
I thought about fairness when I was 14. It bugged me and I shared this with my Mandarin teacher.
She said this, " (There's) No fairness in life. Look at where our heart is placed when we are born. It's lean to one side. In Chinese, biased = 偏心, literally means heart-leaning-to-one-side."
That sealed the fate for me regarding fairness. I grew up then accepting that life is not going to be fair, BUT it doesn't stop me from doing what is "morally" and "ethically" right, to the best I can!.
Fairness is a notion I grapple with every day. I try to be fair to the students that are on time for class yet know the ones that are late often rely on public transit or have children to deal with before getting themselves to school. I am well aware that many people struggle to keep their head above water while I moan about the price of gas and food and can well afford it in comparison. I'm amazed at how many folks have been subject to one tragedy after another yet still have a reason to live. That hardly seems fair.
Unfortunately, it's life. We get what we're given and our mindset shapes how we deal with the challenges thrown at us - and how we come out the other side.
I enjoyed your newsletter Karen, and it certainly got me thinking!
If we take on the blame game, we achieve nothing - other than feeling bitter and twisted which perpetuates the circle.
Excellent points, expertly made. Ironic as you say that a self-centered person definition of "fairness" is "more for me."