Death, Funerals, and Outfits, Does Any of it Matter?
How preparing for my friend's funeral caused me concern.
Recently, I lost a friend. She was one of my dearest pals and I can’t comprehend the fact I will never see her again. So, where do I stand on what happens to us when we die? My Jewish religion says one thing, my boss vows he knows the truth, and Theresa Caputo, the Long Island Medium believes she can channel the dead; none of them can agree.
The subject unnerves me, so I try to avoid it, but thankfully, as I creep closer toward the heavenly cliff, I admit I’m not yet ready to jump off.
It’s difficult for many of us to overlook when a loved one leaves us. As I try to think only positive thoughts, unrest invades my dreams. This leaves it up to me to focus on the good times to maintain a sense of calm and embrace gratitude.
With Anna, there’s a lot to be thankful for.
This weekend is her funeral. First, there’s a visitation and thereafter, is her funeral. Perhaps because of Covid, it’s all in one shot. In the Jewish religion, we bury as soon as possible so often the shock hasn’t yet worn off. Anna passed two weeks ago, so I’ve had time to make peace. She would want it that way; she was a generous soul.
As I plan to attend her memorial service, I wonder what is the dress code nowadays? Others have asked me too. Do I need to wear black? Do I need to keep my shoulders covered? Must I wear a skirt or a dress? No one wants to show to a funeral in a way that isn’t rightfully fitting. It’s hard mingling with people I don’t know, so I don’t want to stand out; especially with a poor dress choice as the cause.
Rumour has it, I can wear what I want. This made it easy. All I needed was to shop for a pair of black pants that fit, and now I’m ready.
So, the only hurdle left is my worry about congregating with a large group of people while Covid still abounds. Am I the only one who’s still cautious? I’ve foregone family gatherings and a bridal shower because I couldn’t find comfort in crowds, but where do I draw the line, including funerals?
I want to mingle with the guests and pay my respects to the family, but how do I comfortably pay my good wishes, while keeping my personal health safe?
I think I’ve found the answer.
I’m choosing to wear an N95 mask to complement my outfit.
I, therefore, must ask. With pinched cheeks, a hidden smile, and a strap that’s sure to flatten my hair, was worrying about what I’d wear necessary?
Where are you at with socializing with large groups and Covid? Have you got back to relatively normal living, or is the pandemic still holding you back?
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I’ve really enjoyed sharing this time with you.